My husband wanted me to go watch him play football. It was a damp, chilly evening, I had no notice, it's a school night, and I have 5 kids to "entertain"...one being a 2 year old (and we all know how WONDERFUL he is) and another being nearly a newborn...he didn't understand why I thought staying home and getting them to bed sounded like the more enjoyable option..."Just come watch, and let them play" was his attitude...
(Go Husband...this is FUN!!! YAY...!!!)
In my head I am thinking, okay, I JUST found out about this, and I need to bundle up 5 kids, load up the stroller, chairs, drive 40 minutes both ways, and then figure out how to be everywhere at once. If Romy gets hungry, and Blazer runs off, how is that going to work...?? I could just picture myself running into the field nursing Romy in one arm and dragging a crazy two-year-old off with the other and just hoping we don't get tackled...! I think that might fall under "public indecency" (or would that be "public nudity"?? Not real sure there...hmmm...maybe I could just wear a snuggie...) Then what if one of the kids has to go to the bathroom?? Then someone trips in the mud and is whining because they are soggy and cold...by the time I get home, it is an hour and a half past bedtime, kids still need to shower, eat snacks, brush teeth and finally go to bed....
and I am pooped...
exhausted...
done for....
Am I being pessimistic??
I thought I was being realistic...weighing the options...
My husband thinks I am being negative...that I am ruining the experience before even trying it...I should just come and enjoy the game...
I am not sure why I couldn't see it that way and I was frustrated that he didn't understand...
What about you??
I don't like to look at myself as a negative person...but maybe I am not seeing what others see...maybe I am over thinking what 5 kids at a football game would be like...would they have really "just played?" I would have loved to go and watch him play...and I hope to be able to at some point...but hopfully not with the kids...at least...not all of them...
P.S. (Added Later) Just to clarify this post...I don't want anyone to think that my husband sucks...cause he surely does not!! This post to me is the difference between Men and Women....Dads vs Moms...Dads: Just pick up and go, we'll figure it out...it will be fun!! Moms: Thinking of every little detail, needs to know how it COULD play out, every little what if or what not....that night...I weighed my options, and felt like it was WAY too much of a hassle...so I bagged the idea. He didn't quite understand, but that doesn't make him a bad guy at all...!!
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I can see both sides! To be honest, I don't like leaving my house between 4:00 and 8:00. (unless it is something fun like Bunco, bookclub or a Scentsy party). I just like to have everybody home where they belong and in bed when they should be there....
But, B might have a point. You never know till you try. It might be a great family thing. I really felt like never leaving the house after #3, I only had 2 hands. Is that part of it? Plus, he wants you to watch him. that is cute. ;)
I must be pessimistic then too...because I was thinking of all the same excuses you were listing. But you never know how the kids would act until you try it...they might have been well behaved and had fun. :) I probably wouldn't take the baby out on a rainy day. Just a thought for next time...couldn't you bring a "friend" to help you "watch" the kids.
Donell
I need to time to prepare myself, Mentally. I would prefer a heads up to the situation so I can have all things ready to go so I don't feel rushed and unprepared. If you are prepared mentally and physically, (snacks, coats n stuff) you can do it!
We love our hubs and we need to do our best to let them know how much we love them.
Just tell Brian that you would like a heads up next time.
You are sooooo being realistic! You know all those things are a possiblity so we as mothers have to think of everything that would happen when we plan on going somewhere. And since you are going to be the ONLY one that is going to be watching the kids you have to weight your options. You just need to add what if someone can't get to the potty, has an acctident and another one looses there shoes in the mud. And someone is bound to bleed at some point. And then your husband has the nerve to get annoyed at you because you miss his winning play because you are the human jugle gym/reffory/entertaner for the evening for 5 KIDS!!! Sorry am I being too negitive. You should go you'll have fun:)
A Snuggies would definitely solve all your problems.
The weird thing about having twins was that we both suddenly had a reality check the size of the moon. We were forced to realize how impossible it is to run in two different directions at the same time if alone. Forced. And maybe that has made it easier on me. My husband learned first-hand what it meant to be in charge of the clan. And after a couple experiences, he said, and I quote, "I'm never doing that again." Meaning, never taking all the kids shopping by himself, etc. Because it was chaos. Stressful. Near the brink of insanity.
Now that my kids are finally getting older, I'm gradually stepping back into the real world. And I have permission to be choosy. Still. Even though I don't have any infants anymore.
This is realistic, not pessimistic. You know your kids and how they act in public. It's hard for kids to sit down to watch something like football without wanting to play themselves.
We took the boys to a slowpitch softball game that my husband was playing in. Moose cried because he wanted his daddy and to play - and couldn't do either. Squirt cried...because that's how he rolls. Plus, there were 4 kids and 3 moms (and two of those moms were switching off playing in the game). So 2 moms at a time watching 4 kids. THAT was a lot so 5 kids by yourself...not so much. Get a sitter & go watch the game. LOL
Not pessimistic, totally realistic. But sometimes the pessimistic occasions do surprise you. My hubby is always coming up with last minute things for the whole group to do...which used to drive me nuts..."Oh sure, let's go take 4 kids under 8 hiking in the dark...which translates to me struggling with kids while he is running up the mountain, oblivious....BUT...I must say that some of our most fun and memorable outings have been ones where Momma wasn't too thrilled to go. I agree with before, just tell him you need more time to process these crazy ideas! :)
I vote realistic. I think sometimes dads, or men are just like...load em up! When really there a million and one things to do before you can even load them up. Then the aftermath of what "could" happen. I know there was a time with 1 or even 2 kids Iwould have said sure, but 5? And in my case 4? Ouchers! Next time you should spring an adventure on Brian. See how the tables are turned!
Sounds like fun!...that is if the kids are all at home being tucked into bed by the babysitter. :) I don't know, maybe try it out once. But come prepared with lots of snacks and maybe an extra hand. :)
Tell him to shut up! How about you take a nap and let him watch you take a nap while chasing the kids! My DH does me the same way! You are very positive! I would have clocked him! LOL
Sorry husband, wifey wins on this one. I was sold after bundle 5 kids and drive 40min both ways.
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