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Thursday, February 12, 2009

Trouble in the School Yard???!!!


So just a thought....should you worry about your kids being teased by other kids at school...??


It all starts when we are at home on a regular school night, doing our regular routine...we are busy doing homework, getting dinner ready, setting the table, and whatnot, and I overhear Carter talking to his sister and he says....


"....Well, sometimes my teacher calls me "Carter the Farter"...."


!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I immediately jump in and analyze the situation....well, no, more like I interigate...


"What did you say Carter??"


he repeated it...


"Are you sure your teacher really called you that??!"


He was....but I wasn't buying it...I know better!!


"So if I call your teacher, and say....Carter says you call him "Carter the Farter" she will say...yes, I have..????!!!" Oh....I've got him now...he will be scared pee-less and fess up...


I am wrong....
"Yes...??" He is worried at this point that I am gonna get him in trouble...so I test him further...


"Well, maybe I need to come to your class tomorrow, and in front of the teacher and ALL of your classmates announce that you like being called "Carter the Farter" and your teacher calls you it...!!!"


"Mommy, I didn't say I liked being called that, she just sometimes calls me that..."


wow....I mean....wow, I didn't know what the heck to think!!....He is NOT giving in...What do I do??!!!


Well, I decided to write a note, and told Carter that I was, and he was totally fine with it. It said something along the lines of this:

Mrs. Blank (for sake of names)...
Carter informed us tonight that he has been called "Carter the Farter" on more than one occasion by his teacher. I am not so concerned about the name, as I am about finding out if this is an honesty issue. Please know how important instilling these values are, and help us to fix this situation in a proper manner. He acted as if it were more of a term of endearment, but if kids caught on, he could be teased relentlessly. Thank you for your help...

Signed me.


There...I didn't make it sound like I thought she was scum of the earth if she had said it, and made sure she knew that if he did lye...there would be major punishment, so she better let us know so that we don't torture the poor kid if he is innocent.


Well, I missed the call....but this was the message I received that next morning:


Hi Tamra, this is...Mrs Blank....I got your note, and you know what, I have said "Carter the Farter," and "Carter Smarter" as rhyming words.... um, so he is not telling you a lie, and I really do apologize for that...um, and so I do understand your concern about other kids maybe saying that, uh, i wont say those rhyming words together any longer...And i appreciate your note, and uh, informing me of that, he was telling the truth, and it was a term of endearment at the time, but the focus was rhyming words so I really do apologize...If you need to call me, please do...Thanks bye...


I was floored...obviously, because for one, I saved the message, and for two, I just typed it down verbatim. I couldn't believe that here I am sending my child to school to deal with his peers, and all of the bullying and teasing that come along with that, but the one person I SHOULD be worrying about is the adult I entrust my child to for 8 hours a day...to mold and create, and whether I like it or not...partly raise. I am confounded....but proud of my son for telling the truth, and accidentally letting me know what was going on. I don't think she realizes how mean and cruel kids can be...unintentionally, and intentionally. She should be the last one putting ideas into the children's heads on how to tease others, whether she meant to or not....!!


She did call again, and apologized, but I feel seriously burnt by the public school system....I just don't know WHAT to think...!!


!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Do you??!!!!


17 comments :

klynch said...

WOW to think a teacher of all people would call your child that , she's a teacher do you think she could come up with another word to rhyme with carter? hello your in academics.

Eudea-Mamia said...

I'm floored! She's surprised that other kids might be doing it?

I really don't know what to say, other than, she should %$#@! know better!!

I'm sorry. I'm really just floored. Wow.

Welcome to SiTS!!! Em

Laura said...

A term of endearment? So I guess if he decided to call her teacher the screecher, it should be okay because it rhymes. Teacher the leecher, teacher the preacher, teacher the creature, teacher the ...
Come on! You should report her to the principal.

Thatcher family said...

I agree with Laura. Totally report her to the principal. As sensitive as Carter can be, especially...that's uncalled for. It's ok for Mom or Dad to joke like that in the comfort of the home, it's not ok for the teacher in a classroom setting. I have yet to enjoy the wonders of the public school system but if I got wind of this, I certainly wouldn't be happy. She's so trying to cover herself too..."I was just using rhyming words". Ok, so she did do Carter Smarter. That's uplifting. What happened in her brain when she thought the other that that was uplifting????

Holy Frick. That's just so crazy. What did you tell Carter??

the MomBabe said...

I don't care if you're doing rhymes or not, that is not appropriate. What if his name was Tucker? Is she gonna go there? I totally think you need to talk to the principal.

Cami said...

My last name used to be Carter! I didn't get that nick name but my brother did!! lol It is funny to hear it again. I agree though that the teacher should not use it!

Nicole said...

Wow, is this her first year of teaching? that is really surprising.

AP said...

first of all welcome to SITS
and 2nd, ok what adult in charge of little kids would think it is ok to add in fartable to their rhyming list!!! really!! are those the best words our public schools can think of!!? I am so sorry

Kelly Deneen said...

Ugh!!! I am so sorry!!! I cannot imagine any teacher using phrases like that with how mean kids can be (and my parents are both teachers!). Please don't lose faith in public schools. She obviously knows she messed up and feels badly about it.

Brandy said...

I would be surprised but my stepson's band teacher is always involved in stuff like this. He's an ass.

And I'm the booster pres so I'm always having to deal with it. At least ss is 17...if he were still elementary school it would be really hard to ignore.

Stopping by from SITS!

The Yearsley's said...

WHAT???!!! That's crazy! I can totally see a kid coming up with that...but a TEACHER!!! Poor Carter! So are you gonna talk to the pricipal?

Ann On and On... said...

A lot of people talk without thinking.....hummm, you would think a teacher wouldn't follow down that mindless path. You did the right thing.

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Rhea said...

Wow, that is seriously disappointing. I would expect much, much better from a teacher.

I'm part of the SITS Welcome Wagon! I've been a member since last summer, and I've read so many fun blogs and met so many amazing women through SITS. Welcome aboard!

Jen said...

Wow, that is really something. She should totally know better. Maybe you should go above her head so that this behavior stops.

~ a fellow SITSta welcoming you to the club.

Rose said...
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Rose said...

I feel the same. I debate with myself all the time about keeping chloee in public schools or putting
her in the Charter school. But I always come back to the same question: I know public schools may be rough, but how do we prepare them for life if they're never exposed to it?

February 15, 2009 11:53 AM

Trina said...

My teacher Mrs. Martin was teaching us about different poems and gave us an assignment to write some poem that would slam on someone in our class (can't recall what type of poem). I told her I didn't feel comfortable insulting my classmates. She told me to do the assignment or fail. My assignment started out Mrs. Martin is always fartin'. She tried to fail me anyway....til my mom got involved. Hee, hee. Gotta love moms.